Developing a Spirit of Expectancy

“Then Elijah said to Ahab, ‘Go get something to eat and drink, for I hear a mighty rainstorm coming!”
1 Kings 18:41

         At this point, the region was under a great drought. They hadn’t seen rain for quite some time and they found themselves in desperate need of water.  Could you imagine Ahab’s face when Elijah told him that there was a mighty rainstorm coming?  I guess I could see the face of a shock and surprise or great speculation. Regardless, Ahab obeyed Elijah and Elijah went about doing his own business. 

“So Ahab went to eat and drink. But Elijah climbed to the top of Mount Carmel and bowed low to the ground and prayed with his face between his knees. Then he said to his servant, ‘Go and look out toward the sea.’  The servant went and looked, then returned to Elijah and said, “I didn’t see anything.’ Seven times Elijah told him to go and look.”
1 Kings 18:42-43 

Notice, Elijah sent his servant out seven times to see if there was rain on the way. Elijah did not lose hope when the servant came back the first time. He began to develop a spirit of expectancy.  He wouldn’t have sent the servant out seven times unless he knew it would happen.  It would have been easy for him to give up and say “I have tried so many times and still I haven’t seen it come to past. I might as well give up.” Instead, Elijah sent his servant out again.

“Finally, the seventh time, his servant told him, ‘I saw a little cloud about the size of a man’s hand rising from the sea.”
1 Kings 18:44

I sense some sarcasm here. Wouldn’t you? I can’t read between the lines, but I wonder if Elijah’s servant had enough of this running back and forth to see if there was any rain coming. Then again, it could be that he was so full of faith that he believed that the very small cloud was an answer to prayer. Elijah, perhaps, knew best;

“Then Elijah shouted, ‘Hurry to Ahab and tell him, ‘Climb into your chariot and go back home. If you don’t hurry, the rain will stop you!’”

Now – that is powerful! Can you imagine the look on the face of the servant? There was probably a shocked expression. You have to admit, you’d be shocked too. And God did not waste His time on responding to their faith. 

“And soon the sky was black with clouds. A heavy wind brought a terrific rainstorm, and Ahab left quickly for Jezreel. Then the Lord gave special strength to Elijah. He tucked his cloak into his belt and ran ahead of Ahab’s chariot all the way to the entrance of Jezreel.”

 What does this all have to do with you and me? We have to become like Elijah. We have to become the servant who ran and looked for rain. We have to become Ahab who, even before he saw the cloud, go eat.  We have to get to the point where when we feel that God is speaking greatness and a dream in our heart that we don’t doubt but that we develop a spirit of expectancy.  Right now as I write this, I would love to tell you that I have perfected this.  I would love to say that I am developing a spirit of expectancy.

I have to be honest with you. This past year has shaken me to my core. Though I have been in peace through most of it, I have a hard time dreaming and believing that the rain is coming. I don’t believe that Elijah was without doubt.  He was human. Just read the next chapter! I believe that even in our own disbelief that we have to build that spirit of expectancy.  In Mercy Me’s Even Ifthere is a line that reads “They say it only takes a little faith to move a mountain. Good thing, a little faith is all I have right now.” Just imagine if faith the size of a grain of mustard seed is enough to move mountains (see Matthew 17:20 ). 

I believe that we have to believe that we will see our dreams come to past in our lifetime. We could all have a theological debate and split hairs over what each of us believes in. I want to propose this to you; would you rather expect something big and get something small or expect something small and receive nothing? 

I love this song from Elevation Worship and I hope it ministers to you!

William J. Howell

Don’t Miss Your Opportunity

“Never give in! Never, never, never!”
Winston Churchill
October 29, 1941
Harrow School

This quote came from a speech that Winston Churchill had given to the at Harrow School at the height of World War 2.  During this time, Churchill recounted the war’s history and the struggles that they had gone through in order to persevere. He instructed these very students to remain strong and faithful during the dark times with the encouragement that they could, indeed, overcome. In the dark days that we go through, we need the Winston Churchills to encourage us to overcome.

Imagine, though, we had just given up on everything that we dreamed of all because we were worn out from all of the trials.  What would become of all of the Albert Einsteins, Thomas Edisons, Henry Fords, and other famous men and women if they had given up before accomplishing their goal?  Thomas Edison was famous for saying after the lightbulb’s creation; “I did not fail 10,000 times. I found 10,000 ways that it didn’t work.”  We’d probably be living in the dark and not enjoying the lives that we had if Edison had simply given up after so often failing.

In Chip Gaines in his book Captial Gaines: Smart things I Learned Doing Stupid Stuff, Gaines writes;

“Don’t let the fear of failure keep you from that pursuit. I know I wouldn’t be where I am today if I hadn’t taken a few chances—sometimes they panned out, but even when they didn’t, I never let failure break my focus. If you believe in something, you gotta go after it.”

When we take the fear out of failure, it is just another adventure.  Because Chip and Joanna Gaines decided to head feet first into their ventures, they did not allow fear to overtake them. Let’s look at someone who allowed fear to keep them from amazing things.

        Recently, I read this story of a man who gave up before something great would have happened.  Bjarni Herjólfsson was a Norse-Icelandic explorer who traveled between Norway and Iceland on a normal basis as a merchant.  At one point, he had decided to visit his parents only to find out that his father had gone to Greenland.

        Setting his sails towards Greenland, a storm erupted causing his boat to veer off course. After some time, he finally came to land. However, he did not get off the boat and explore thinking about being home. He turned the boat around and headed back to his homeland. Little did he know, Herjólfsson saw America. But because he refused to get out of the boat and went back to something familiar, he missed out on becoming the first European to find America. Rumors swirled for many hundred years about lands to the West, but no one had successfully sailed to them until Christopher Columbus in 1492.

       How many times have we been like Bjarni Herjólfsson?  We hit storm after storm while finding ourselves completely defeated. We let defeat seep into our hearts and we give up on the things that we believe that God is calling us to do.  Today, I want to encourage you to set your sails, prepare for what lies ahead, and go!

In The Midst – I Know The Plans

 For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.
Jeremiah 29:11 NLT

It may be one of the most quoted verses in the Bible. Before you stop there and go “I know this already,” hear me out because I had a revelation recently in this scripture. Maybe you already knew it, but I didn’t know this; God made this promise during in the middle of their captivity.  Say what? Let’s look at the first verse;

Jeremiah wrote a letter from Jerusalem to the elders, priests, prophets, and all the people who had been exiled to Babylon by King Nebuchadnezzar.

In the middle of their captivity, God spoke into their hearts that He would do great things for them and not evil. When I came across this, it lit up like a lightbulb to me. So often, we think that when things are going right in our life that this is where God does great things for us. It isn’t true. Israel had been held captive by their enemies for quite some time. I am sure that they had been ready to give up. But God, through the prophet Jeremiah, spoke to their hearts that it was time to rebuild their lives even in the midst of their captivity.

John Maxwell wrote in the John Maxwell Leadership Bible;

“Even in Israel’s darkest hour, God assured the people of His plans to prosper them and give them a hopeful future. Just so, even when we don’t see immediate results, we can remain assured of God’s ultimate blessing and benefit. The fruit may not come immediately, but it will come ultimately.”

       Wow! Could you imagine even in the midst of all that you are going through to know that God has an ultimate plan that is coming for you?  Will it be easy? No!  I wish I could say yes. But all throughout scripture, we see that God’s people did not have it easy.

  1. Abraham (Hebrews 11:8-10) Abraham left everything behind that he knew into a land that he did not know to take hold of a promise that he had not seen. Along the way, he encountered countless obstacles but still, by faith, persevered.
  2. Sarah (Hebrews 11:11-12) Sarah gave birth to Isaac at a very old age. Before this, she went almost 100 years without bearing a child which, in Bible times, was frowned upon. It was considered a curse from God if you could not have children.
  3. Noah (Genesis 6) Noah was born into a world that was chaotic and evil. God decided to while the slate clean and start all over. He chose Noah to build a huge boat in the middle of the desert. That seems all fine and dandy until you hear that it had never rained and there weren’t any boats. He was ridiculed and slandered. But he never wavered. The flood came and he lives with his family to repopulate the earth.
  4. David (1 Samuel 18-31:5) A very long portion of history, David was chased by Saul because David had the anointing of God on his life and was considered more favorable by the people.  This made Saul jealous, resentful, and murderous. Crazed by this jealousy, Saul attempted to kill David only to find his own demise by his own sword by his own hands.
  5. Job (Job) We all know about Job. Plagued by trials, Job lost every single thing he had. He had “friends” that made you want to say “with friends like these, who needs enemies?!” Job lamented throughout the book only to have God remind him sternly that He was God and what He can do. Then, God restored everything to him…and then some.

I could go on and on. Not to belabor the point, but in the middle of our adversity God is working things out for our good. No matter how hard it is, no matter the trial we go through, no matter how many times we want to give up, God is still working it all for our good.

I don’t tell you this just because it’s some feel-good message. I tell you this because I have been there. I have been in the midst of the valley of the shadow of death time and time again. I am there right now. But I have to have some sort of hope that God will redeem it all. When I read this verse, it put it all in a whole new light for me. I hope it has for you!







The Day of Small Beginnings

“Do not despise these small beginnings, for the Lord rejoices to see the work begin, to see the plumb line in Zerubbabel’s hand.”
Zechariah 4:10 NLT

I used to hate these words; “Don’t despise the day of small beginnings.” Geeze. How long do I have to wait for this small beginning to become big? When will that breakthrough occur? When will I see the day of plenty?! I know, you being holy, have never uttered these words. But I have and plenty of times. Recently, I walked out of a testing center for an exam that I was taking and just failed it. I had studied so hard only to find out that I had flunked it. Really?!

What I felt at the time was utter defeat. I am not going to lie. I was upset. But one thing that I went back to was this, in my earlier days I would have just given up. Now, I see it as a challenge. I will not despise the days of small beginnings. Just think about Jesus.

At 30, Jesus was an unknown son of a carpenter. No one knew who He was. He hadn’t performed any documented miracles. He laid low. So low that he lived in a town that people would ask “can anything good come from Nazareth?”* One day, Jesus was at a party and the people had drunk up all the good stuff. His mother, knowing who He really was, said that it was time. Time? Time for what?

Jesus would respond to his mother ““Dear woman, that’s not our problem,” Jesus replied. “My time has not yet come.”** His mother knew that the time was coming and instructed the servants to do whatever he said. Little did she know that Jesus would step into the miracle that would solidify His ministry on this earth. The servants did just as Jesus had told them and the rest is all history. 

But what would have happened if Jesus had gotten stuck in the days of small beginnings?What would have happened if His mother hadn’t felt the nudge to tell Him? I challenge you today to get beyond the day of small beginnings. Prepare for the day of plenty.

*John 1:46


Don’t Give Up On God

       I remember saying that time and time again as a young person in the faith. I always made excuses for not giving money in the offering whether it be that there be an important event coming up or “I didn’t have it.” I came to a crossroad in my walk with God in 2006 while I was starting over in life.

      Fresh out of bankruptcy I moved to Saint Louis, Missouri where I began my life as a file room clerk at Washington University. I didn’t have a lot but that was alright with me because it was better than nothing. Everything seemed to fall into place for me while I was getting settled in my new apartment in North County. Shortly after my move, I started dating my wife to be and we attended the church that she grew up in and every Sunday there would be a teaching on tithing. It would honestly bother me because I started to feel like most people feel when they hear the teacher get up and talk about it; it’s always about the money.

      I decided one day to challenge God on this principle. Every time the message was given, it was always given with Malachi 3 where the people of Israel were challenged to test God on their giving. As I began this journey, I honestly wasn’t sure what to expect but what happened next changed my perspective on it. In the first week of my tithing; I blew out two tires within days and my car was broken into. That’s not encouraging for a new tither, but I was determined to see God move on this principle.

      Let’s fast forward ten years later. At the time of this writing, my income hasn’t gone up substantially. I haven’t seen a new BMW plop down in front of me. I haven’t had a gold watch fall into my lap. I haven’t received promotions and increases like many of my brothers and sisters in Christ claim will happen when I tithe. Wait, don’t shut me down yet…I have a point. In Psalms, David wrote, “I was young and now I am old yet I have not seen the righteous forsaken or their children begging for bread.” Sara and I have never lacked anything that we need. We do not have a fancy house or fancy cars but we have a home that is warm in the winter and cool in the summer, we have money in the bank for a rainy day, we have children that are healthy, and no debt besides our home.

         “Well, that’s fine and dandy for you Will but I am up to my ears in debt and I can’t afford to keep the lights on!” I remember those days. This message isn’t for the millionaire. This message is for the dad who has been struggling with three jobs and hasn’t had a decent paycheck. This is for the dad who is trying to get his children fed. This message is for the man who has been struggling to get his mortgage paid for.

        Friend, this is to encourage you that there is light at the end of the tunnel. This is to encourage you that if you don’t quit there will be a harvest (see Galatians 6:9). This is to encourage you that when you get that pink slip or that red letter on your door to focus not on the paper but on the Provider! Don’t you give up because some man told you that you would never make it! Don’t you quit because you get some kind of notice on your door because you didn’t have the money at the time to pay it! Don’t you quit because some voice is telling you lies and filling you with negativity! No! You push in and press into what God has for you! I am not saying God is going to send you a BMW but what I am saying is that My God WILL Supply ALL your needs! In Matthew 6, Jesus said that if you being fathers who are evil will provide food for your children how much more will your Heavenly Father provide for you? That will preach on its own right there! God is in the business of providing!

God’s Not Impressed By Your “Do”

Have you ever been driven by results? As a man, I have to admit that I hate to fail.  In creating this blog, I feared that it would never take off….and it still may not take off.  What I can tell you is that I am driven.  I want to see my Google Analytic results going sky or the sales on our site increase.  Nothing could set me up for what God had in store for me next.

One thing that I have never been able to shake up until recently is work.  I have always been driven by works.  I was always worried that someone was upset because I didn’t do good enough.  If someone was upset, I would take on the responsibility for their unhappiness not realizing that I was trying to play the part of God.  Let me explain.

Growing up  I would say to God “If you will…I will…” “If you do…I do…” thinking that I could manipulate God into doing what I wanted to do. The only problem was, God doesn’t go by what we do but what He has already done. We often, as Christians, have a works oriented mindset. We find ourselves walking down the road negating what happened on the cross. We decided our eternal destiny by standing on what we can do when Christ already conquered in turn trying to take the place of God.

God has not given us the authority to work our way into grace.  He already conquered it on the cross long before we even decided to sin or fail.  Before you and I were even knit our mother’s womb, God decided to send His Son to die for the sins that you would commit long after you were placed on this earth.  The authority of grace lies in the cross and in the cross alone. Without grace, we would find ourselves lost and deserted. Instead, because of the cross, we can now find ourselves free.

Grace does not give you a get out of hell free ticket or a free ticket to sin. No, grace causes you run from sin. Grace causes you to want to show love to the Father. Grace causes you to come to Him instead of shying away from Him. Beyond Grace? Now you can see Him in a new light.

Opinion | The Modern Day Press

Recently, I have been watching the political climate of our country and listening to what people have to say in the political arena and in the public arena. I have many amazing people on my page the follow me and many of them have opposing views than me. I am pretty quite typically about my political views and what I think. I have been watching our President over this past year and how the press has treated him. First – you may disagree. But please refrain from putting rude comments on my post. I don’t do it to you, please don’t do it to me. No – seriously. Don’t.

(1) Over the past few months, I have listened to the different press conferences that have been made whether it was the President or his staff and witness egregious attitudes from those in attendance. The individuals claim to want to unify the country and ask questions about what the President is going to do about bringing the country together yet in the same breath yell at those to whom they are asking questions of. Does anyone else see something wrong with this?

(2) Do you remember a time when the President spoke (regardless of party affiliation) that people would show respect for him? Or even allowed him to answer their questions without their interruptions? I remember a time when if the President was going to speak, regardless of what we thought of him, we would show respect to him. Each time I listen to these reporters in this Press Conference today, I wonder what is really going through their heads when they address the President. Multiple times they over spoke him, tried to catch him in a lie, yelled at him, etc. I was honestly appalled and have been in recent years when I listened to the press speak to the President.

(3) Do we really expect our country to be united when we ourselves cannot do the same in our own homes, churches, and communities?

To quote President John F Kennedy;

“My fellow Americans, ask not what your country can do for you, ask what you can do for your country.”

I firmly believe that regardless of who is in the White House that we should be respectful. I can respectfully disagree with our President on certain things (regardless of which President that I am speaking of.) I pray for our President – especially this one. I have never seen such vitriol, vile hate towards him. I pray that God will direct him, give him wisdom, protect him, show him the right paths to walk, to make decisions for our country that will serve our people, and to reflect the office with great intentionality for the good of this nation. God bless the President of the United States.

The Seed Does Not Return Void

A while ago, we pulled into the church parking lot and I was prepared to drop everyone off at the door when all of a sudden the hood filled with steam. It is never a good sign to see the steam fill the hood and the thermostat reading hit overheated. I parked the van just to watch it drain coolant down the parking lot ramp. I went inside and got our seat for church then headed to get our classroom set up. I had our tithe in my pocket and needed to fill out the envelope. Here’s the crazy thing; I didn’t second guess myself in giving our tithe. Why? It’s not mine to keep. It is holy unto the Lord and I refuse to rob Him of it.

It may come across as being extreme for some who read this. However, I learned very early on in my journey as a Christian that when I put the seed in the barn, I will have plenty left over in the end. I am not saying that you should be irresponsible with your finances. What I am saying is that there will be times that you will find yourself in a place where you just know that you have to plant the seed.

Not long after this occurred, we were given money above and beyond what we needed to repair the van. Never wavering, we have seen God move mountains with our little faith. There are times where I know it would be easier for me to doubt God than to trust Him. Then, He shows up and shows off.

Regret | A City Not Worth Remembering

It’s hard to believe that I have entered into my mid-thirties. I have had a lot of time to look back and wonder what I have done over the years, as well as, where I have come from. I have had a lot of time wondering what I could have done to be further along in life. I could take time to stand in the City of Regret. As a matter of fact, I lived there for a long time. I am grateful that I have learned how to pack my bags and leave the city and move to freedom. Sure, I could reminiscence about what I could have done or even the wrong that I have done in this life. The only problem is that I left the city so far ago, I don’t even remember what my address was. I have heard this story time and time again…yet it still is pertinent to today;

Leaving the City of Regret

I had no plan on taking this trip but found myself packing. I knew that no good would come out of this journey but the sucky baby in me went anyway — to the annual “Guilt Trip”.

I got a ticket to fly with “NORTH WISH I HAD Airlines”. I got my tear up baggage which I could not check and carried it myself all the way. It was weighted down with a ton of memories of what might have been. No one greeted me as I entered the feeling crappy terminal to the “Regret City International Airport”.

As I checked into “Last Resort Hotel”, I noticed that they’re hosting the city’s most prestigious event, the annual “Pity Party”. I heard many of its leading citizens would be there so I wasn’t going to miss out on that.

First, the “Done Family”, you know – should have done, would have done, could have done. Then the big in the industry “I Had Group”, you probably recognize ole wish I had and his entourage. Of course, the dazzling couples Opportunities would be present, Missed Opportunities and Lost Opportunities.

The biggest company is the “Yesterdays”. Too many of them to count but each has a sad story to share.
Then “Shattered Dreams” would surely make an appearance and “Their Fault” would regale us with stories, I mean excuses – about how things had failed in his life. Each story would be loudly applauded by “Don’t Blame Me” and “I Couldn’t Help It”.
Well, to make a long story short, I went to the party thinking that it would help. But as usual, I became depressed. As I thought about the stories of failures brought back from the past, it occurred to me that the remainder of this trip and subsequent pity parties could be canceled by ME!

I realize that I didn’t have to be there.
One thing going through my mind, I can’t change yesterday but I do have the power to make today a wonderful day. I can be happy, joyous, fulfilled, encouraged , as well as encouraging to others.

So, I left the City of Regret immediately.
Am I sorry for mistakes I’ve made in the past? Yes!
But there is no physical way to undo them.

If you’re planning a trip to the City of Regret, please cancel your reservation. Instead, take a trip to “Newness Town”. It’s nice here so I got a permanent resident. My neighbor, “I Forgive Myself” and “The New Starts” are so kind and helpful.
By the way, you don’t need to bring and carry a heavy baggage. All load is lifted upon arrival.

God bless you for finding and living in this great town. When you come, look me up. I live on “I Can” Avenue. You won’t miss it, it’s by the famous Lake Love and Joyful Park across the street.

(C) Larry Harp

The City of Regret is a sorrowful place to live. But God will take us through and allow us to come out on the other side. Don’t fall for the lure of regret but instead head to Newness Town where life is a whole lot more carefree.



Whatever Turns You On

“I have no special talents. I am only passionately curious.”
Albert Einstein

     I can already see it now, there are teenagers reading this thinking alright he’s going to talk about…. I can see parents going, “this could be interesting.” I see the grandma in the back putting in her teeth with her jaw dropped. Relax. I promise this message is rated G.

     I was stopped at a stoplight (makes you glad that I stop, doesn’t it) in a town not far from home on a Thursday morning when a bus was in the turn lane in front of me. You know how some buses have those big advertisements for facilities on it or a brand name on it, well this particular one had an ad for a casino that was built in downtown Saint Louis. Illuminating the entirety of the right side of the bus was “Whatever Turns You On.” I won’t say the hotel and casino that it was related to but I will say it had a hidden message in it.

God revealed clearly to me that we need to be turned on by the Spirit. By that I mean we need to be prepared to have our switches turned on and readily be sensitive to the call of the Holy Spirit. When we prepare ourselves to be used by the Spirit, we are more apt to hear what He has to say. We are to be like a light bulb. If we are turned off, we can not shine to the world. But if we are turned on, we shine brightly to the world. In Matthew 5:16, the Word says “Let your light so shine before men that they may see your moral excellence and your praiseworthy, noble, and good deeds and recognize and honor and praise and glorify your Father Who is in heaven.” Let your light shine brightly, don’t let Satan put it out. We often let our emotions dictate how we live in the Spirit. We often find ourselves wondering why we can’t change the circumstances or have a “where is God” mentality instead of quietly waiting on the Spirit to tell us in peace what we should or should not do. God tells us in Psalms 46:10 to “be still”.

In the stillness, you hear God speaking and we find that out when we read the story of Elijah when he was on the run in the Old Testament. In 1 Kings 19:10-12, Elijah was in despair and was ready to end his life even after his major victory. But God told him to go to the mountain and wait there. Elijah had to be thinking he was in a heap of trouble. Getting there had to be a challenge in itself because now he had to face God Almighty. It had to be almost like hearing your father saying “go you to your room and wait for me there.” Nothing good comes from that statement. You know that there is either a hand or a switch on its way. But he gets there and sees all these things happening; the earthquake, the strong winds, the massive fire, yet God was not in these things.

There was quietness and a stillness that God came and spoke to Elijah. In that stillness, God intentionally overlooked Elijah’s faults and his weakness. He told him to simply go and anoint this man to be king. I love it when God goes, “What are you doing?” because we already know God knew what we were doing. What would have happened if Moses had not listened to the Holy Spirit? What would have happened if Abram did not listen to God’s plan for His life and stayed where he was? What would have happened if Saul had not heeded the command of the Spirit on the road to Damascus? What would have happened if you had not listened to the Spirit when He called you to be His son or daughter? In the stillness, in the quiet, listen to the Spirit. Turn that light switch on and get turned on to the Spirit.

In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven.- 

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Growing Nearer to the Heart of God

“The dog you feed will be the strongest. Which dog are you feeding?”
Ron Coleman

With the T.V. blaring in the background, the kids yelling, the dishwasher running, and your spouse begging you to get something done around the house, I want you to take a moment. You laugh at the idea but God is asking you to remember, who is the Master and who is the slave. We see in the dictionary that a master is ‘one whose teachings or doctrines are accepted by followers’ or ‘one who owns a slave’. Many people flinch at the idea of being a slave to something or someone. They are reminded of how slaves were treated in the Civil War days and refuse to retreat to that but we have to be reminded that we are a slave or a bondservant to Christ. The Masterplan is to follow the Master. We often find ourselves being a slave to other things in life and without realizing it; we treat it as our god.

Now there is some balance in what I am saying, I am not saying you can’t ever watch television or play a video game but what I am saying is there is a balance. If you watch television for 4 hours a night and never spend more than 10 minutes with God, then what is your god? The word ‘god’ is defined as ‘one that is worshiped or idealized’, which means if you would ideally rather watch television than to spend time with the Master, then we know who is your god. In Exodus, God put in His commandments to ‘have no gods before Me’.

So I have a question for you, who or what is your god? Is it money? Is it a sin? Is it a god? In Matthew 6:24 (AMP) it says, “No one can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will stand by and be devoted to the one and despise and be against the other. You cannot serve God and mammon (deceitful riches, money, possessions, or whatever is trusted in).” In other words, you can’t have your cake and eat it too. If you ever noticed those who are in God’s Word that the bondservants of Christ are ones who give up themselves to do His will. Take Paul for example. In 2/3’s of the New Testament is written by Paul and we can attest that the Almighty God is his Master. Even in the church, we find out who our master is. If you are not careful, your pastor can be your master. Yes, your pastor should be your spiritual leader and you should seek his counsel, but if you set him on a master level, when he sins (and he will by the way because he is human) you will be disappointed. So we should set our eyes on the higher prize of Christ being our Master.

When Christ came to this earth, He left behind His Godhood, if you will, and took the form of man which He then became a servant (see Matthew 20:28/Mark 10:45). We are to follow the example of Christ and imitate His example. Are we going to do it perfectly? I believe we can do it through Christ. We have to decide who are we going to serve, are we going to serve God or man?

Now going back to the beginning, With the T.V. blaring in the background, the kids yelling, the dishwasher running, and your spouse begging you to get something done around the house, I want you to take a moment. Who or what are you going to be a slave to? Are you going to be a slave to sin? Well, you now have a choice because it says in Romans 6:14 (NIV), “For sin shall not be your master, because you are not under law, but under grace”. It’s time to turn the T.V. off for a few minutes, put the kids to bed, wash the dishes by hand with your beautiful spouse by your side, do the task that they ask, and get into the Word. You can not live by mere bread alone. Why? Bread only satisfies you for a moment, the living water will satisfy you for life. Your master needs to be the Master.

In Joshua 24:15 (AMP), “And if it seems evil to you to serve the Lord, choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods which your fathers served on the other side of the River, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you dwell; but as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” Joshua challenged the Israelites to choose who they were going to serve and he also took a stance, he was not going to be bullied into serving another master.

Now with that T.V. turned off this will make some sense. The requirements of being a servant of the Master are simple. You have to love one another (see Galatians 5:13) regardless of the past histories. That means your worst enemy and your best friend. You have to serve God alone and no other gods (see Ephesians 6:7) so that means that T.V. has to be turned off for a time. I am not saying turn Amish and forsake all modern technology. But you do need to have some time to clear your head. Besides, there’s not much worth watching on T.V. anyhow. And finally, you have to give God what you have. What? You don’t make enough to give to God? I beg to differ. Let’s travel back in time to Matthew 25:14-30.

We see in this little piece of history that God doesn’t take lightly those who are stingy, let’s just call it like it is. The man who had one talent dug a hole in the ground and hid his master’s money. Are you guilty of hiding your ‘master’s’ money? The bank is what some people say a great place to invest. Let’s do the math, if you put your money in a savings account for a year your gain 2-3 percent interest in a good bank. However, you put 10 percent into God’s work, you will receive it back in full. As you have witnessed, the one got 5 talents received 10. The one with 2 received 4. That is a 50 percent return on your investment.

However, you bury it in the ground and you will get…. UTTER DARKNESS….I think it’s time to reevaluate your position. Being a servant is merely giving yourself fully to God. Does it mean you go off in a cave, collect lint, and only come out on the Holy Mass? No. I mean, spend time with God. You call your friend up 2-3 times a week but you can’t call the one who died for you? The call is free and the connection is priceless. So what are you waiting for? Turn off the T.V. and place that call to God. He’s waiting for you!

Opinion | Are We Living in a Modern Day Country Club?

 So now I am giving you a new commandment: Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other.”
John 13:34

      I have found myself at a place in my life where I have questioned the worldview of the church.  Being that I was a part of the world and the church both for many years, I have seen a lot of what Christians believe and what we as Christians actually do in relation to what we believe.  What’s alarming is that there are many people who come into the church and find the hypocrisy of the church congregation, which causes them to simply walk away.  I am not insinuating that the church has permanently fallen nor am I implying that church is solely responsible for people coming and going in the church.  I am, however, making a point to tell you in this short teaching that there are misconceptions of the church and it has been duly noted by the world.


        There are those who haven’t been in the church long or are not even in the church find themselves lost in a sea of faces but no relationship with people in the church. The word fellowship is defined in part as a “relationship.”  One of the main problems is that many people that come into the church from outside in the world find themselves ostracized or put out because they just feel that they fit in.  They have nothing in common at all with the people of the church and often it is because they feel more at home at the bar with Joe than in the pew next to Jim.  I am not saying that we should indoctrinate ourselves with a flavor of seeker friendliness or open a bar in the courtyard lobby of the churches in America.  Nevertheless, I do think that we are often too focused on ourselves and are totally missing a great opportunity to reach out to a lost and dying world.

        We have a couple in our church, which comes to mind, that many people would not normally associate with because they are still “rough around the edges.”  They haven’t embraced the Church for very long and that means they haven’t given up all their lifestyles.  It has been these types of situations that posed this question in my heart; “Have we totally missed the point of what the church is all about?“   Are we finding ourselves receiving the sick, the needy, the widows, the orphans, etc? Or are we coming together to talk about politics, sports, the latest model of phones, etc.?
        There’s an old song called “What the world needs now is love sweet love” and that is so true in the world today.  The fact of the matter is, when someone from the outside comes in, they are expecting to receive Christ. The world is expecting to feel Christ.  They are expecting another experience that they have never experienced before.  What are you and I doing to practice what Christ practiced?  It is not enough to say that you love God.  In I John 4:20, the author stated that “If someone says, “I love God,” but hates a Christian brother or sister, that person is a liar; for if we don’t love people we can see, how can we love God, whom we have not seen?”  We, the church, are now at a place where it is not enough to have a bumper sticker and a Jesus pin.
      There’s a story about a woman who was driving and she had come to a stop at a schoolyard where she was stuck behind someone.  The person did not move so the woman proceeded to honk her horn and yell out obscenities out the car window.  Behind her, there was a local police officer and he found it quite odd so he decided to watch her.  It wasn’t long that the police officer assumed something was wrong and arrested the woman.   A few hours later, the officer came up to her and handed her belongings to her.  He said “I am sorry for the mix-up but I thought your car was stolen.  You see, I saw the bumper sticker and the fish on the back of your car but I didn’t think it could possibly be the owner of the car who was driving.  Again, I apologize.”  I know you and I get a chuckle out of this story but the fact is, it happens more often than you realize.  The world is watching you and is taking note of it.
        Let’s take the Woman at the well for example since we need scripture to back up what we are teaching here today.  In John 4, Jesus came to a well in Samaria to take a moment and rest.  Let’s stop here for a moment and think about this.  There were two other routes that Jesus could have taken to avoid Samaria but he went straight into a city in the heart of the people.  It was not customary for Jews to associate with the Samarians.  Sounds familiar?  You and I hear often that it is not customary for Christians to associate with the world.  We have twisted scripture around so that we don’t have to a part of the world which is biblically false.  Jesus went against the custom of His people and the norm of what others thought.
         As He was resting at the well, there was a person there that two things that would have made the Jew of this time avoid the well; this was a woman and she was a Samaritan.  This did not bother Jesus for one moment.  In a dialogue that would change history, Jesus challenged this woman on her faith, her lifestyle, and her heart.  Her faith was challenged when He asked her for a drink.  She, in the natural, saw her flaws and what she should not do.  Jesus, in the spirit, saw her healing and what she could do.  “Please give me a drink” He said to her.  She, before even truly thinking about it, said that she was unqualified.  Jesus did not come back to her with the John 3:16 evangelism.  He met her where she was at which was at the well.  Jesus’ response to her was this, “anyone who drinks this water will soon become thirsty.  But those who drink the water I give will never be thirsty again.  It becomes a fresh, bubbling spring within them, giving them eternal life.”  What did Jesus do?  He offered her a solution, not a pad answer, to her problem or her disability and yet did it without judgment or criticism.
        Jesus then addressed her lifestyle without judgment. ‘ “Go and get your husband.” Jesus told her. “I don’t have a husband,” the woman replied.  Jesus said, ‘You’re right! You don’t have a husband-for you have had five husbands and you aren’t even married to the man you’re living with now. You certainly spoke the truth.” Here, Jesus uncovered what she was living in yet I don’t see Him saying, “you can’t come here” or “you can’t hang around me” or “you sinner are going to burn in hell….” He uncovered her sin and shortly, you will see where he covered it with the Word. I recently read out of Craig Groeschel’s “Confessions of a Pastor” of a time where he had gone to guest teach at a church. A single mom came to the church that he was guest speaking but she was turned away at the door.  Why?  She wasn’t wearing the “appropriate attire” for church.  What would have happened if Jesus had told the Samaritan woman that because of her life style, she couldn’t come to Christ to receive the free gift he had?
        ‘“Sir”, the woman said, “you must be a prophet.  So tell me, why is that you Jews insist that Jerusalem is the only place to worship, while we Samaritans claim it is here at Mount Gerizim, where our ancestors worshipped?”’  Until I started writing this message, I never understood why this was in the scripture but I believe now more than ever that a hindrance or a barrier in her faith in God was that she was not accepted in the synagogue because she was not a certain demonination.  That’s not biblical but it is an observation that I have made.
       “Jesus replied, ‘Believe me, dear woman, the time is coming when it will no longer matter whether you worship the Father on this mountain or in Jerusalem.  You Samaritans know very little about the one you worship, while the Jews know all about him for salvation comes through the Jews.  But the time is coming- indeed it’s here now- when true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit and in truth.’“  Just a side noted; I love the simple faith of the Samaritans that is represented here.  Jesus had said that “Samaritans know very little about the one you worship.” This leads me to believe that they didn’t know much about God but revered Him and worshipped Him.  I believe that John was making a statement here that was subtle but profound.   You don’t have to be Baptist, Jewish, Charismatic, Catholic, etc to love God.  All He requires is that you come to Him.
        We, as a church, need the answer to give and we need more than just the evangelism side of the answer.  In James 1:27, James wrote “Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this; To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, and to keep himself unspotted from the world.”  What James was saying is that people need you to just be there.  We as a church need to be there for those who are suffering and who are going through trials.  Jesus exemplified that here with the woman.  He was there in her affliction which was the lifestyle that she was living.  Jesus did not spend time on Romans Road and how she should get saved before she burns in hell.  He loved her at the moment that she was in.  I wonder what would happen as a church if we decided to treat those who are on the outside looking in with love, respect, honor, and hope.
         Challenge: This is not just for the reader of this message but also for me.  I challenge you and me to take a few minutes out of our socializing and grazing to find someone in the church that we attend to love on, to say hello to, to acknowledge, etc.  Take some time to pray about who God can put across your path to show love to.  You will have the opportunity to bring someone who is on the outside looking in, into the world of faith.and possibly change their lives for eternity.

For the Grace of God

 “For the Grace of God is the power that never fails”

A couple of years ago, I read a book entitled “Destined to Reign” by Joseph Prince. So often, our thoughts and our hearts revolve around our sin and what we have done wrong. Sin means to “miss the mark” which is what we do on a daily basis. If not for the grace of God, we would all be condemned to hell. Now, hang with me because there is a point for us fathers to get on this. I am a pretty straightforward guy. The sky is blue, the grass (when watered) is green, God is love, and etc. My children are learning that pretty quickly as they are getting older and as they see it, what Dad says Dad means. That’s good, I guess until they see that there is no leverage.

In Jonah, God had already prepared to wipe out the whole city and he had just the right man to go tell them. Jonah wanted no part in it. So far, he had heard that these people were the utmost heathens and they could all rot for all he cared. Therefore, Jonah would embark on a journey of running from God. While on this journey, God sent a fierce storm to get Jonah’s attention and attention is what God received. Jonah told the fishermen to cast him overboard and all would be well. Jonah would then be swallowed up by the big fish and then be puked up on the coast leading to the landlocked city of Nineveh.

Soon, Jonah would arrive in the city and proclaim that God would wipe out the entire city if they did not repent. Unbeknownst to Jonah, the city did repent. Jonah went far from the city and sat to watch its impending doom. Something strange had happened… the city of Nineveh did not get flattened. God would spare the people and give them yet another chance. What happened to the God who wanted to squash this great city? The heart of God was compelled to show grace to His children, even though they did not deserve it.

Fathers, I am guilty. I have to admit that I am pretty graceless when it comes to our children. I have to daily remind myself of God’s grace when it comes to teaching our children. How much more does our Father in heaven extend grace and forgiveness to us as His children? In Matthew 18:21, we see a candid reminder of how much of Father extends His grace. Peter had had enough of being stabbed in the back thus he asked: “how many times must I forgive my brother?” Giving a number of 70 times, he lays the ball in Jesus’ court. What is Jesus’ response? “Seventy time seven.” How does this correlate with God’s grace? If God is calling us to forgive others over and over again, would He not then follow His own instructions?

Here is the rest of the story: “Therefore, the kingdom of Heaven can be compared to a king to decided to bring his accounts up to date with servants who had borrowed money from him. In the process, one of his debtors who was brought in who owed him millions of dollars. He couldn’t pay, so his master ordered that he be sold-along with his wife, his children, and everything he owned to pay the debt. But the man fell before his master and begged him, ‘please, be patient with me, and I will pay it all.’ Then his master was filled with pity for him, and he released him and forgave his debt.” Take a moment and let that sink in men of God. The king heard the cry of mercy and grace from his servant and forgave the debt. God knew that you and I could not repay the debt that we owed and gave us grace towards the debt.

As we read on, we see that this servant did not appreciate the grace. “But when the man left the king, he went to a fellow servant who owed him a few thousand dollars. He grabbed him by the throat and demanded instant payment. His fellow servant fell down before him and begged for a little more time. ‘ Be patient with me, and I will pay it,’ he pleaded. But his creditor wouldn’t wait. He had the man arrested and put in prison until the debt could be paid in full.” The servant of the king did not extend the same grace that the king had given to him. Here’s the irony; we are the same way. How often do you and I get cut off in traffic or have someone being promoted before us or have someone mistakenly bill us for something that we didn’t do yet we have a “how dare you” attitude? Ouch. This was the revelation that I received when reading this book. The revelation was that not only had God given me grace but that He expects me to extend grace. You know the rest of the story of the servant. Someone witnessed it and the king found out bringing him to the ultimate decision to throw him into the prison to be tortured. There’s a sermon in itself but I won’t go there.

If God turned His back on you and I every time we sinned, we would have no relationship because you and I sin on a daily basis. We miss the mark so often that Jesus had to die so that our sins would be cleansed. The ultimate act of grace was that instead of you and I getting the beating, Jesus received it. In order for our children to give grace to those around them, they must first see grace given to them.

I challenge you in this area as God has challenged me. “If Jesus must forgive his ‘brother’ seventy times seventy times, why would our Heavenly Father not do the same for us? Why would He not follow His own example? We as His representatives must do the same. for our wives, our children, our families, and the world around us.”

He Restores

“I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten, the hopper, the destroyer, and the cutter, my great army, which I sent among you.  “You shall eat in plenty and be satisfied, and praise the name of the Lord your God, who has dealt wondrously with you. And my people shall never again be put to shame. You shall know that I am in the midst of Israel, and that I am the Lord your God and there is none else. And my people shall never again be put to shame.”
Joel 2:25-27

2017 was a year that I would just assume that I forget. I mean, just to be honest, it was a horrible year in our book. Beginning on January 30, I began a long and painful journey of realizing that the career I had chosen was no longer for me and that my then-employer would let me find a new one on my own. For eight months, I would search and would try to find my new career. I never thought the day would come that I would have to consider settling for a job.

Then God would open a door that no man could shut. Several months into the process, I wondered if the door to my new career would ever be completely opened. With a text, my new life as a Help Desk associate would begin and I would start a career in the IT industry. This career would allow me to learn and to grow into a great profession. I love computers and I love people. With these two, I would find myself with a new passion.

None of this would have been possible if the job that I had at the time not been taken away. God restores what the enemy will take away. At the time of this writing, we are still rebuilding. It was not an easy road. Whoever tells you to become a Christian rids you of all bad things that happen in life and that you will be given all the money in the world at your disposal – run from them because they are full of it.

The new year will be the year of restoration. The new year will be a great year.

What are you believing that will be restored in the new year?

Is Your Grace Sufficient?

“And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work.”

I pose a question to you with a heart of understanding; if God’s grace is sufficient enough to forgive you of your sins, is your grace sufficient enough to forgive someone of theirs toward you?  I know that we are not perfect, yet we are to be perfect in Christ.  We, as Christians, are called to a higher level of excellence.  We are reminded of Peter when he asked Christ, “Lord, how many times may my brother sin against me and I forgive him and let it go? [As many as] up to seven times?” Jesus answered him, “I tell you, not up to seven times, but seventy times seven!”( See Matthew 18:21-22) What the world would consider foolish, God sees it as wisdom.  The world would want you to hold a grudge so that you don’t get hurt again.  God wants you to forgive so He can heal the wounded.  As Joyce Meyer says, “Hurting people hurt people.”  Many times, people offend, ridicule, or disrespect us because they are hurting.  But as Christians, we should be able to say that “if God is for us then who can be against us?”  You can take what the enemy meant for harm and turn it around for your good.  Grace is defined as “Unmerited favor.”  This means that you give favor to those who have not earned it and do not deserve it, as Christ did on Calvary.  What power do we have to give favor to people that do not deserve it!

For example, someone cuts you off in traffic and you have to embrace yourself for the worst side of you. Now, you have a choice, are you going to give grace or are you going to have a swift tongue and a hateful attitude towards them?  Talk is cheap, it is plain and simple.  People don’t want another gospel tract or to see a Christian bumper sticker.  They want to see you act what you preach.  People don’t need another Sunday School lesson.  What they need is proof of your love for Christ.  If you get cut off in traffic, the best thing to do is to practice grace.  It’s going to happen anyway, so prepare yourself.  “God, I am not going to get upset at the person.  Protect them wherever they may be going.  If someone is sick, heal them in the name of Jesus.”  You never know when someone who cuts you off may be having a bad day or someone is dying in their life and they are deep in thought or even they may have just lost their job.  It’s so easy to fly off the handle at people who wrong us, but God has a higher level for you to obtain.  Wouldn’t be awesome if someone cut in line in front at the grocery store and you paid for their things.

Or what if someone dropped trash in your yard and you went over and cleaned theirs?  What would the world be if Christians simply acted like Christians?  Grace knows no status, no race, no religion, no popularity, and it does not conform to the wise, to the elect, or to the underprivileged.  God’s grace is available to all people, everywhere, anytime, and anyway.  God does not say to one that His grace is sufficient for sin A, B, but not C.  We must not neglect the fact that we are ambassadors of Jesus Christ.  As we reflect the love of God, we should be ready to embrace for impact.  Many remember the plane crash in the Hudson River.  Many testimonies reflect the pilot’s instructions to his passengers, “embrace for impact.”  Whenever you are flying, your life is not in your own hands.  It is in the hands of a person in the cockpit of the plane.  If the pilot tells you to put your seatbelt on, you are not going to ask for scripture and verse on why you should have your seatbelt on.  The same is true with God.  If God tells you to extend grace to people, you need not ask what scripture it is and the verses to go along with it.  God wants to see you free from bitterness, resentment, and anger.  Those things are harbored up in you when you don’t extend grace to those who offend you.  Be prepared at all times, in season and out of season, know that you will be tested and tried on grace in the next twenty-four hours. Grace is also a heart matter.  If you harbor the unforgiveness in your heart, you will expose it in the world.

In Matthew 12: 33-35, Jesus spoke to the religious leaders of Jerusalem, “Make a tree good and its fruit will be good or make a tree bad and its fruit will be bad, for a tree is recognized by its fruit. You brood of vipers, how can you who are evil say anything good? For out of the overflow of the heart, the mouth speaks. The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in him, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in him.”

Christ was none too pleased with the religious leaders because of their double-mindedness. But Christ also offered grace to them.  How so?  He offered, through his teaching, many times in many scenarios on how to be truly born again.    The question remains, “if God’s grace is sufficient enough to forgive you of your sins, is your grace sufficient enough to forgive someone of theirs toward you?”  How are you going to extend God’s grace into someone’s life?  When someone commits a sin in your life, are you going to jump all over them and quote verse by verse scripture of why they are wrong and you are right?  Or are you going to say ‘eh, it’s not big deal?  Thank you, God, for taking care them. Give me the grace to forgive them and to move on.  If I need to address the situation, give me wisdom.  Allow me, Father, to be a vessel of your grace.”  I give you this challenge today to simply allow someone to receive God’s grace through you.  Experience the freedom of God’s grace!

Objects May Be Closer Than They Appear


I was in church the other day and something hit me.  No, it wasn’t the Bible of my wife waking me up but instead it was a revelation.  I won’t say the scenario nor will I mention names but just in passing, I noticed a few things.  It’s so easy to see things when you are in the center aisle of the sanctuary and notice that certain people are doing certain things at the certain times.  Sometimes you want to just get up and tap the person on the shoulder and tell them, are you here to praise God?  It came to me when I noticed that people weren’t into the praise and worship nor were they into the sermon.

The thought came to mind, “Are you here to praise God or to condemn His people?”  It took me a minute to realize that we react in the same manner.  Often times, we come to church expecting to make friends with the elite and higher class individuals of the church and often pass the lower end of the spectrum.  Have you ever passed someone who says hello and thought a nasty thought about them? Are you living what Christ would have done to the undesirable person that sits in your row at work?  Are you the one that will take up the underdog even when it’s unpopular?  What would have happened if Jesus decided to hang out with just the prestigious and elite?  There would be no Mary or Martha nor would there be Peter, James, John, etc…do you get where I am going with this?  He actually called many of the prestigious people “brood of vipers” which was not a compliment in that time.  He even called a tax collector out of a tree to dine with him at his home.  Would you do that for an IRS agent?  I would hope so, but I think not.

Jesus met a woman at the well who was full of sin and shame. Jesus would have been shunned by Jew and Gentile for His participation in any type of communication with a person of such stature.  But remember, Jesus was not a people pleaser.  He was out to touch them and heal them.  Jesus once said, “It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. But go and learn what this means: ‘I desire mercy, not sacrifice. “For I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.”  Jesus was in the healing ministry.  Many see healing as just physical, but that is not true.  Jesus healed the demon processed, He made the insane become sane, and He even put the holy-art-thou with no fruit spirit out to pasture. Something neat about Christ was that He didn’t tell the leper that he could not come ten feet near him, no.  He told the leper to be healed.  He didn’t allow the cripple to sit and suffer in his own disability.  Jesus touched him and told him to get up and walk.  Paul spoke of Christians as “ambassadors” of Christ.  The word ambassador means “an authorized messenger or representative”.  We are to represent the love of Christ in a fashion that is contagious.

rear-mirror-167581_1920The world is tired of the same old rhetoric and is ready to see action.  The word doesn’t need a W.W.J.D. bracelet; they need the action of love.  If you see someone who needs money, meets the need if you have it.  If you don’t have it, like Joyce Meyer says, get people together and collect it.  It doesn’t take much to impress the world, just watch TV. for five minutes and you can relate to that.  Take a Christian who acts like a Christian and you have won the heart of the world.  Why am I saying this in contrast to “special clubs in the church?”

Because the place people get hurt the most is sad, the church and in ministry.  We find ourselves “hanging out” with each other and failing to see the need.  So, what do we do about it?  In James, it says, “be a doer of the word.” Simple as that, do what Jesus would do.  Is it hard? I am sure it was hard for Jesus’ disciples to allow the sick to touch them but they let them anyway. It doesn’t take an act of God and Congress to act like a Christian.  In Matthew 25: 35-36, Jesus told a parable,  “For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.’ The righteous answered back to Christ when did they see Him.  Christ answered in verse 40, “‘I tell you the truth, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers of mine, you did for me.'” Simply put, be a Christian.

Where’s the Rewind Button?

“Life appears to me too short to be spent in nursing animosity or registering wrongs.”
Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre

Have you ever held a grudge?  Did you ever have someone say or do something to you that you felt that was just unforgivable?  Have you had someone do something totally opposite of what you told them to do and it caused them to fall?  The “I told you so” syndrome has swept this nation like never before.  We find ourselves with our noses in the business of people and yet we really don’t even know their hearts.  We give them advice, we tell them how it is, we tell them “I told you so” when they never even asked us for the advice, and sometimes they even ask for the advice that they rejected.  We have to find that fine line between distance and unforgiveness.  Many of us walk around this world bitter because we don’t get our way in other people’s lives because we think we know it all, or people do things to us that we just can’t explain.  Now, you are probably wondering where this is going.  I am setting a foundation for the title of this message and I hope that it makes you and I really think.  I pose a question for the both of us today that I hope will help you to pause and think before holding a grudge or unforgiveness; where’s the rewind button?  You know, when you miss a point in a movie or a story and you can just flip back or rewind the tape and see it again.

When someone does the things that I have mentioned before that cause us to harbor bitterness, where is the rewind button so they can go back and fix that mistake that they had made?  Do we continue to throw it in their faces each time they do something we disagree with or do we let it go and move on?  In Matthew 18, Jesus told a parable of a master and his servant who owed him a large sum of money.  The servant did not have it and begged the master for leniency.  The master had mercy on him and set him free.  However, the servant went out and found another servant who owed him money and demanded he pays what he owed.  The master caught the wind of what was going on and in verse 32 Jesus reveals his response, “Then the master called the servant in. ‘You wicked servant,’ he said, ‘I canceled all that debt of yours because you begged me to. Shouldn’t you have had mercy on your fellow-servant just as I had on you?’ In anger, his master turned him over to the jailers to be tortured until he should pay back all he owed.”  It is interesting to see that in verse 33 Jesus said, “This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother from your heart.”  Now, you are probably pondering, “you mean the same God that has the love, grace, and mercy to send His Son to die for me would not forgive me?”  The answer is clear.  We are so quick to quote the goodie scriptures but when it comes to God’s demands of our lives, we are quick to forget those scriptures.  Can you find the rewind button to delete what was just said here?  Just kidding.  But all jokes aside, we need to let it go. Many would ask, “how many times must I forgive this person for the same thing.  I do it over and over and it’s tiring!”  Peter asked this question “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus spoke to him and said, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.”  Are you harboring unforgiveness toward your mate or your child?  Are you upset because your employer treated you unfairly?  Remember, God calls you to forgive them, whether you believe they deserve it or not.  It is so easy to harbor that bitterness.  It so easy to say, “they haven’t forgiven me, then why should I forgive them?”  The enemy loves to use bitterness and unforgiveness to his advantage.  It opens the door for strife and anger to enter.  It’s so easy to let the situation sit on the back burner and fan the flame.  I pose this to you today and to myself, put out the flame, get out of the pot, and move on.  Sitting in your world of bitterness and anger is not going to change the person or the situation.

Your bitterness and anger are not going change the situation.  There is no way that we can go back and make that person, who did wrong, do right.  Bringing it up will not cause it to happen, it only hurts the person and hurts yourself.  I want to say this in closing; what would you do if God came up to you and threw everything you ever did in your face?   Now I am not saying that you can go sin like no one’s business.  I am saying that when you have repented, God has forgiven it as far as the east is to the west. (See Psalm 103:12) Don’t be an instrument of Satan, but be an instrument of God.  So, quit trying to hit the rewind button and hit the pause button and pray on this.  Be blessed!




Opinion | The Shock Wave of Sexual Harassment Allegations

Over the past few weeks, we have been plagued with news stories on famous individuals caught up in a sexual harassment scandal. It is almost a normal occurrence to hear on the morning news that someone has been accused of these awful crimes.  Long have reports shown that our current society is over-sexualized by media such as movies, games, music, etc. Yet we seem surprised when we have sexual crimes on the rise. I am absolutely not condoning it. I have a wife, daughters, sisters, etc.

This is where I have to ask the question; should we be surprised that these events are happening in light of my statement on the media influence? For an example, just the other day, I was watching my Security + course video on YouTube and it went to an Ad of a girl prancing around in her underwear. No exaggeration either! But should we be anymore?

Gone are the days when you can watch a television show without something popping up that is scantily clad. Even during the baseball game, I have to watch what’s going on the whole time because, without warning, someone begins walking across the screen practically nude. Then we preach to people that it is wrong to say or do certain things. Does anyone else not see the issue here? Or am I turning into an old prude?

I can talk about this from a male or female perspective, but because I have lived this long on the male side of the street, I can approach it like this. Men are visual. When we see something, it doesn’t just leave our brain because it is wrong. It doesn’t just leave because of a moral compass that tells us that we shouldn’t be thinking about it.

As a society, the street should go both ways. If you want men to respect women and vice versus, quit pushing the sexualized agenda of the media! On the flip side of it, if you want this type of behavior to stop – quit funding the media that produces it. If you stop feeding the predatory actions of these types of movies, shows, music, etc and bring an end to the endorsement of these activities.


Forward Thinking – 8 Keys to Changing Your Way of Thinking

“And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.Keep putting into practice all you learned and received from me—everything you heard from me and saw me doing. Then the God of peace will be with you.”

                                                                                                                   Philippians 4:8-9

“I am depressed.”

“I am down.”

“I am worried about…”

“I just can’t shake this….”

I will be the first to tell you that these are just a few of the thoughts that I have had over the past 30+ years of my life. Fear and dread were a part of my everyday life which robbed me much of the joy that I could have had. I can still remember thinking about how the world would just be a better place if I were not a part of it Why am I telling you this?

You’re Not Alone.

Even as a believer in Christ, I struggled with these things. I never would have guessed other people felt this way until I talked to a pastor about it. “You wouldn’t believe the amount of men and women who love God but cannot love themselves. It’s like a cement block tied to their feet and they are being thrown into the lake with no hope of recovering.” Wow. Pretty deep stuff, right? When I began writing again, this was something that I knew that I needed to reach out and address. Why?

You’re Not Alone.

There are 8 keys that helped me re-frame my way of thinking. Have I arrived? Heavens no. But I am one day closer to that victory. Here they are;

  1. Is it True?
  2. Is it Honorable?
  3. Is it Right?
  4. Is it Pure?
  5. Is it Lovely?
  6. Is it Admirable?
  7. Is it full of Excellence?
  8. Is it Worthy of Praise?

If the answer is no to any of these questions; it is not worth thinking about and it is time to change the subject.

I know that this was really deep, but hear me out on this. If I can redirect what I think about into these eight areas, I can be sure that I will be victorious in whatever I do. I am not talking about some magical potion or cues that you can use. What I am talking about is taking these eight questions and re-framing the process of how you think.

What ways are you re-framing your way of thinking today?

Live at Peace


Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone.
Romans 12:18

We are way too offended in today’s society. Never in my life have I seen so many people get offended by something someone said or did. When I was younger, we were always taught to just walk away and move on. In this politically correct or lack thereof society, I see way too many people getting bent out of shape over certain things people say.

For example, I just glanced at an article headline that read that a man was fired from his job because of a comment he made that made some people feel uneasy. Gone are the days that free speech prevails. I am not saying what he said was right, however, I am saying that some people just need to become adults and grow up. If I got my underwear in a wad for every person who said or wrote something about me, I’d have one solid piece of cotton.

Our veterans have fought for you and me to have a right to think the way we want to think, say what we want to say, and feel the way we want to feel. I know, this is my thoughts and my opinions. But I have to wonder how the other guy felt when he was fired. I have to wonder if he decided that it would be better to be silent than to voice his opinions. I wonder why is it alright for one man to have an offense but the guy who they are offended at had no rights.

I believe that we have to come to a point in our country that we quit living with our feelings on our sleeves and get out there to live a productive life instead of a destructive one. Instead of being offended, live a life of peace as much as you can with your fellow man.

Work at living in peace with everyone, and work at living a holy life, for those who are not holy will not see the Lord.
Hebrews 12:14

Instead of worrying about our neighbor’s issue(s), perhaps it is the time to focus on ours. It may be the perfect time to work on our own things. If we could fix just one thing in our lives, I firmly believe that it would better the world for the greater good.

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