“Kind words are like honey-sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.”
Have you ever heard of the saying, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all?” Perhaps made famous by the fluffy wise rabbit called Thumper from Bambi, we can take a lot of great wisdom from this sage advise. It is often easy to pop off our thoughts and tell people what we think but God’s plan for us is to be slow to speak and quick to listen. I believe that this is extremely true in marriage.
One of the successes that Sara and I have had in our marriage is that we are slow to speak. We have not had an argument (knock on wood) in our marriage. I am not saying we are perfect. I know for a fact that we have both at one time or another have gotten on each other’s nerves. Truth be told, it is more me getting on her nerves than anything. We are both pretty laid back and intentional in our marriage.
What does that mean? We both know that we are going to have bad days. It is a given. Neither one of us has a perfect day especially after all of the hell that we have gone through in our lives. Honestly, we wouldn’t have gotten through these times if it weren’t for this principle. Instead of tearing each other down, we build each other up. We are constantly telling each other how amazing the other person is and how much we love them. Why?
In a world that is constantly tearing you down, why would you want a spouse or friend be around you to be like the world? I know countless marriages where I hear the spouse completely tear the one that they professed their love for at the altar not long ago. It has to scare the living daylights out of the young people who are wanting to get married but see this as a huge deterrent.
One thing that I have told every single engaged individual this; quit listening to other’s marriage advice. Your marriage’s success is up to you. You CAN and WILL have a great marriage is you want it. You would think that this was just a simple message. You would not believe the relief on these young person faces when I tell them this. Sara and I firmly believe that marriage is what you make it.
Is your relationship the way that you want it to be? How can you make it better?