It has now been two years since my departure from the ministry. That’s hard to believe. To think that the near decade that I was there flew by, these past two seem faster. Maybe it is because I am older or perhaps it is because we are busier. One thing that I do know is that I have learned so much in that time. Here are 5 things that I learned;
- Breaking up is hard to do. When they told me I was fired, I honestly felt numb. I did not have a clear direction other than my family now was thrown under the bus. It was difficult. After a few hours, I probably cried more than I had in a very long time. I caught me off guard that I would be this emotional. Fortunately, I got to say bye in my own way to all of those I left behind.
- Change is inevitable. No matter what phase you are in your life, change will happen. Whether it is good or bad, change is inevitable. And change is good. When we stay stagnant for too long, we find ourself complacent and bored.
- You are replaceable. I worked so hard at that job that I was trying to make myself indispensable. The problem with that is that we are all replaceable. I hate to be the bearer of bad news but you are not the hottest thing in the fire. You, my friend, are replaceable.
- Know your worth. I am not saying this in pride. I am saying this, though, as a fact. The person you work for does not know all of your qualities, your abilities, and the like. They have limited knowledge. Don’t sell yourself short!
- Not everyone has your best in mind. Just because someone has the label of Christian, Believer, Child of God, etc. etc. does not mean that they have your best in mind. I don’t think that it is intentional that they have their own agenda in mind. With that said, your agenda does not matter to them.
These are just a few things I have learned. Not long after I left the ministry, I wrote Unpack: Life Lessons of an Unemployed Rockstar which you can grab today for .99!