“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.”
— Steve Jobs
Ever find yourself trying to live the life that your parents always want you to have or your friends think that you should have? At one point, I found this to be true in my own life. I tried to measure up to someone else’s expectation of the perfect, Christian life, only to find myself disappointed and confused. I am so blessed that Sara and I are on the path of living our dreams that God has for us, whether it be the vision someone has for our lives or not. You will always disappoint the person who is trying to change the life that you are living; you will never be disappointed when you live the life that God always wanted you to have.
In my years in ministry, I would try everything I could to adapt and change myself into whatever the leadership would want me to be. I would change how I talked, how I communicated with our partners, how I would pray, etc. It was never enough. It took a cold day in January in 2017 to make me realize that no matter what I did, they would never be satisfied. I wasted so much time trying to change me that I lost myself in the nearly ten years I was there. Now, I am doing all I can to be what God has called me to be.
Have I arrived? Not at all. I still struggle with it. Even today, I have to remind myself that I cannot be what I am not to people who do not want to accept me as I am. I know – that was a mouth full. It is the truth. You cannot and you will not be able to please people. The great thing is that you don’t have to. You don’t even have to please God. He’s already pleased with you!
Right now, I would like to challenge you to step back for a moment and ask yourself this question; who am I? Not who am I to other people or who am I supposed to be to other people. When you ask yourself the question of who you are, it is here that the growth begins. First, you may want to get religious about it. That’s fine.
However, you need to be honest with yourself. After asking the question of who am I, it is time to ask the question of who do I want to be? And last, ask who do you want to be remembered at the last breath you take?