“But the Lord said to Samuel”; “Do not look at his outward appearances or at the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearances, but the Lord looks at the heart.”
1 Samuel 16:7
Throughout the process of leaving my previous employer, I had to unpack quite a few things regarding it. One thing is that I was constantly being challenged to change who I was as a person. There were many leaders who did not like the fact that I spent time with people longer than they would help them understand certain processes. My teaching style is to bring comfort, peace, and understanding to whatever subject that may be with humor and clarity. Constantly, I felt the pressure to be someone that I wasn’t and even tried for a period of time to do so.
Here is the thing about trying to be someone that you are not to please others; you are left miserable and you will never live up to the expectations of those people. You will constantly feel like a failure. You will never measure up. Why? Because we are created to be what God has called us to be. I am not implying that we should not improve in certain areas of our lives. However, I am implying that to change someone’s personality for the sake of making people happy, that is not part of God’s plan with the man.
God is not impressed by your what. He is not even impressed by your who. He loves you just right where you are. He is not looking for a person who is pretending to be a Christian or trying to be perfect. He is looking for someone who will follow Him. He is the only One that you have to live up to. The great thing is that He will never condemn you for being just who you are. He is working behind the scenes for your good.
While we go through this process of acceptance, there will be people who don’t agree with you. They will be angry that you won’t conform to their way of thinking. We had this happen with a family member who did not agree with us on how we raised our children. I dwelt on that for weeks and was deeply hurt by it. However, I had to take this principle to the heart to know that I am not responsible for that person’s joy or acceptance of me. My job is to be accepted and loved by God and in turn, do the same for them.
In the midst of this abandonment by people, we need to find refuge in the fact that God has not abandoned us. He has received us as His own.
“Even if my father and mother abandon me, the Lord will hold me close.”
No matter the situation, we can replace “father and mother” with the issue and this statement is still true. Just an example, “Although my employer has abandoned me, the Lord will hold me close.” God has a special place for those that have been abandoned. I firmly believe that He does. When we have that occur in our lives, it is easy to become bitter. I know that I have been tempted to be bitter and unforgiving. It is a daily challenge to walk in forgiveness and love towards those who hurt us. But God has given us the strength in knowing that He has our back.
At the end of the day, God has given us the strength and the courage through His word. When you get tempted to be someone else, find your strength in Him.
“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified of them, for the Lord your God goes with you, He will never leave nor forsake you.”Deuteronomy 21:6