Easter Sunday is upon us and often we lose sight of the real purpose behind it is. Beyond the eggs, the food, the bunnies, plays, etc. The meaning of Easter is so much more powerful than the imagery that we see. The power of God rolled the stone away from the tomb and Jesus Christ arose from the dead. Never has there been a more controversial person in history than Jesus Christ. People have given their lives, the hearts, the mission, their money, and so much more to follow the Son of God.
But why? Why was there so much devotion to a person who had no tangible record to compare to the teachers of the law? Personally, I believe that they were drawn to a power that they could not explain. That is why I believe that so many of us follow. We have each experienced Him in a significant way. This all occurred because of Him. He was crucified three days ago and today, He arose and conquered death. The stone was rolled away to expose the true power of God!
“Consistency is the true foundation of trust. Either keep your promises or do not make them.”
― Roy T. Bennett
We often find ourselves, as parents, wanting to get out of something we said that we would do. When you work 40+ hours a week, have bills to pay, have errands to run, it is much easier to tell our children “maybe later” and not do it after we said that we would.
To be consistent is to be “constantly adhering to the same principles, course, form, etc.” In other words, our word is our bond. We cannot tell our children to be people of integrity and consistency if we, ourselves, do not do it.
This even applies to discipline. One thing that we have taught our kids that we have to be consistent in our discipline. If Dad or Mom says that we are going to do something, then we have to follow through with it. It is easier to let it slide after the 3rd time instructing them. The problem with this is that when we promise something good or bad to our children and do not follow through, they lose trust in our word.
Just like the quote says that consistency is the foundation of trust. Isn’t that the truth?! The minute someone is not consistent with us, we lose trust in them. We can’t believe what they say. That foundation begins to crumble. Our goal, as parents, is to be trustworthy and to show integrity so that our children will never wonder of our consistency.
‘But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. Three times I pleaded with the Lord about this, that it should leave me. ‘
2 Corinthians 12:8-9
As a parent, it is easy to get caught up in our mistakes in parenting. We get so caught up on being the perfect parent going to every single event and being at active in our children’s lives in every single second. The fact of the matter is, there are no perfect parents in this world. Imagine if Mary, the mother of Jesus, had the pressure of performing to be the perfect parent because she was the guardian of Jesus who happened to be the only perfect person on this earth. She would drive herself crazy.
I know that I have found myself in this position many times. I would think that all is well and my kid(s) would inadvertently do something that would prove that I am not the most perfect parent in the world. If you don’t believe me, read When You Are About To Lose Your… It happens to be one of the most read posts on this site!
We have to give ourselves the grace to believe that we aren’t totally screwing up our children and hoping that they don’t end up on Dr. Phil one day or Jerry Springer. I have to on a regular basis (I am far from perfect at it) remind myself that my children are amazing and that I am just impatient. Either that or they have lost their ever loving minds! I digress.
So – Dad and Mom or Grandma and Grandpa or Aunt or Uncle – cut yourself some slack. His grace is sufficient in your time of need and boy do you need it in raising those children!
The size of your success is measured by the strength of your desire; the size of your dream; and how you handle disappointment along the way.
I recently had a disappointment in my career that set me back for a few hours. The old past tried to sneak up and drag me down. I was really discouraged about the whole thing and I struggled to shake it. One thing that helped was after overcoming so many disappointments, I learned a valuable lesson – if you live in the land of disappointment, you will miss your appointment. I had to shake it off. It was difficult, I won’t begin to lie.
Regardless of how successful you are or will become, all people have had disappointments in life. While we are in the midst, we hear the accusations of the accuser. There are multiple lies that we hear but primarily there are three that come to mind.
You Don’t Have Enough Faith – You have even heard this from well-meaning…well maybe not well-meaning, but at least someone who has “more faith” than you. The lies that tell you that if you had enough faith that this would never have happened to plague your mind.
You Have Done Something to Make God Mad – The fact of the matter is that God is not mad at you. Seriously. If God makes disappointments available for each person who displeased Him, there would never be anything but disappointments. Romans 5:8 tells us “But God showed his great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners.”
You Will Never Advance – This lie is perpetrated when disappointments happen time and time again. The truth is that if we stay here, we will never see advancement. In Psalms 27:13, King David wrote: “I remain confident of this: I will see the goodness of the LORD in the land of the living.” The hope here is that we see this good while we are still on this earth.
What lies have you heard while you were disappointed?
“Nothing worth having comes easy” – unknown
A recent conversation with one of our kiddos led to this comment – everything is not handed to you. We live in a time where children are taught that everyone gets a trophy, everyone gets a good grade, everyone deserves things. Then – they hit the real world and are surprised when they find out that everything is not in fact handed to them.
It was a rough time in one of the girl’s time at school. They were not doing well in a particular subject and they practically did not try. They wanted us to give them the answer to every homework problem. They wanted us to work it all out for them. In our house, we don’t do that for them. If they sincerely need help, sure, we will help them. If they haven’t even tried then no, they have to at least try first. They cannot assume that we are going to do that for them.
We have seen a vast improvement in their skills since then. Was it easy? Oh please! Quite the contrary! They cried, screamed, threw fits, etc. I know, our girls are not perfect as some may lead on to believe. Although they are set up to win, we don’t make them win. They have to earn it. With that, they find more satisfaction. I hear it in their voice when they do it on their own.
How are you teaching your kiddos to do their best?
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